October is National Bullying Prevention Month, and as the month comes to a close, it’s a timely reminder of the importance of continuing the conversation about bullying and its lasting impact.
Bullying doesn’t end at graduation, it isn’t limited to the schoolyard. The effects of bullying can linger long after childhood, shaping how people see themselves and interact with the world as adults. For many, it leaves invisible scars that last a lifetime.
Bullying is generally defined as aggressive repetitive behavior that can take form of threats, verbal harassment and physical violence. In recent years, cyber bullying has become more increasingly common. It involves harassment through social media, texting, email, and other online platforms.
According to StopBullying.gov, about 44% of students ages 12 to 18 have experienced bullying at school – nearly half of all students nationwide. The website also notes that female students are more likely to experience online harassment, revealing how the digital world has become another source of emotional harm for many.
What drives someone to become a bully? Do they ever come to regret the pain they’ve caused? The saying “hurt people hurt people” often rings true. those who lash out are sometimes carrying inner turmoil of their own.
In many cases, bullying stems from a need for control, to feel superior to others. Some individuals who were once victims of bullying may begin to bully others to reclaim a sense of power or to deter attention from themselves.
Bullies rarely operate alone. They often seek validation or authority by drawing others into their circle, turning cruelty into a group effort. Gossip, rumors, intimidation and public humiliation are among their most common tactics – all designed to isolate their targets.
Then there are the bystanders, the peers who witness the abuse but remain silent. Some stay quiet out of fear; others do so based on their desire to fit in. Yet their silence, intentional or not, allows the cycle of bullying to continue unchecked.
Bullying isn’t limited to school hallways. It can surface in workplaces, within friend groups, among family members, and even in community places like gyms or social clubs. Wherever there is an imbalance of power or a desire to control or belittle others, bullying can take root.
For many individuals who have endured bullying, the experience leaves long lasting emotional scars – memories that can damage their confidence and sense of self, long after the bullying has stopped. Bullying can have serious and last effects, including depression, anxiety, declining physical health, academic struggles, and suicidal thoughts.
Over the past decade, suicide rates among young people have continued to rise, underscoring the urgent need for greater awareness, prevention, and support. National Bullying Prevention Month was established in 2006, and its message continues to gain attention nationwide. Those interested in supporting the cause or learning more about ways to advocate against bullying can visit PACER.org/Bullying for resources and opportunities to get involved.
In a world that can at times feel harsh and unforgiving, acts of kindness can make a difference. By showing compassion, speaking out against injustice, and supporting those who are vulnerable, each of us can help break the cycle of bullying and create safer, more gentle community.
